Losing A Family Member: Remembering My Father In Law + Christmas Dinners With Him
My 2019 started with 3 adults instead of 4. Losing a family member is something we are adjusting to. But to be honest it ain’t easy and I often cry thinking about it…
The day I received the news that my father-in-law died is something am still in shock about sometimes. I try to convince myself that I am ok but to be honest, I am not.
Maybe it’s also because we were on vacation in another country. I felt cheated because I did not get to say goodbye to him despite it was a sudden death.
I get more teary whenever my youngest daughter starts crying before bedtime because she misses her grand-dad !
Life Without My Father-in-Law
After losing my father-in-law I kinda lost my interest in wanting to write more despite the fact that am also busier than ever.
The girls are getting older which means that their schedules have increased. It’s just myself and my Hubster now that’s in charge of doing the drop off and pick up.
My father-in-law was a huge help but now he is resting in peace so it’s a-bit demanding on our part at the moment!
Christmas After Losing a Dear Family Member
We had an awesome Christmas with my mother-in-law and the best part was, my Husband and I hosted for the very first time at our home.
It was lovely and my eyes was on my mother-in-law almost all the time…
Losing a very dear family member was incredibly hard for me. But I can’t imagine how she felt sitting with us having her first Christmas without her husband.
Last Christmas was spent my in-laws without knowing that it was our last Christmas with my father-in-law. Had I known I would have remembered to take the family photo that I always did but I did managed to capture one with him and my youngest daughter.
I must say that my mother-in-law did an amazing job of not shredding a tear around the Christmas table even though we spoke about him and reminisce about him being in the kitchen on Christmas Day.
My very first Christmas with my Hubster’s family is one I can’t forget. That’s because it was my very first time preparing Danish Christmas dinner with my father-in-law.
It was truly an honor to spend time with him in the kitchen.
My father-in-law was very open and curious about new things. Seeing that I am a Jamaican most of our conversation was about food, my Christmas culture etc!
Connecting over Food
I really miss my father-in-law also because he was a foodie like myself. So our conversation were never a dull moment at all.
I was never a fan of having ducks on Christmas Eve. This island Mamma had no idea duck was something one ate on Christmas Eve in Denmark.
In Jamacia we had goat, beef, ham, chicken etc. To be honest I can’t even remember if I’ve even seen a duck ever in Jamaica. Maybe there are some ducks somewhere, but I can’t remember seeing one!
When my father-in-law found out I’ve never had duck before he ensured that I was at his side whilst he prepared the duck. My father-in-law was the one in charge of preparing the Danish Christmas dinner!
All of us participated with whatever task he designated to us.
It was always lovely to watch him and my mother-in-law discussing the taste of the famous danish brown sauce etc
He did taught us well indeed because we prepared our first danish Christmas dinner together and it tasted amazing and the brown sauce conversation was between my mother-in-law and myself.
My father-in-law taught me how to slice the duck so this Christmas. I was in charge of duck slicing in the family it was my father-in-law’s job but now the baton is in my hand. For my first time, I did a pretty good job and am sure he is pleased.
I don’t really know what 2019 has in store but so far am so grateful that my family and I have gotten the opportunity to say to each other happy 2019, despite losing such a dear family member!
Despite the fact that we welcomed the beginning of a new year without him, we are blessed that we have precious memories of him !